Infynites I's and Eyes Meditation: The Dummies' Guide On How To Improve The Relationship.

 The Dummies' Guide On How To Improve The Relationship.

Let's go deeper! Hello beautiful people, and welcome to our today's meditation guide. Today, let us discuss the relationship and how to improve one. 

So, first of all, we have to ask ourselves what the relationship is? Is the relationship just something that we use to fulfil our needs, or is it something deeper? 

As always, we have to start looking outside and then look inside. Firstly, we meet an object or a person that we see fit to fulfil our needs. Our needs may be to have fun. They may be to find a wife to have kids with, or we may have seen someone that fit our description. It can be completely random that you fall in love with someone. 

Now that you met the person that you like and you are really into her or him. What is happening? When you were looking for that person for the first time. You were open, and you were listening to whatever that person was saying. 

What he or she was telling you? That person entirely absorbed you. You saw everything good in them, and that what was wrong. You would go over it, or you would see and tell yourself that "I can fix that later". 

You would say, the person can change for me and so on and so and so on. As we progress in our relationship, we start to create an image of that person. This image is the collection of the memories that we have with that person. Either good or either bad, and most of us use this and store it in our brain. 

When we look at this person one month later or one year later, or ten years later, we develop an image of this person in our mind, and we say we know them. We understand how they function, how they live, what they are doing. 

We think we know them better than they know themselves but are we learning that person, or is it the just image we have about that person? 

Now, let us switch to the other person. The other person that is in a relationship with you also has the same process. They develop some images about you and creates an impression about you too, and they claim to know you. 

As the relationship progresses, we start less and less to listen to what that person is telling us. 

To watch that person, to observe that person, we are just watching an image we already perceive what they will say. We already know when we come home, we will drink maybe a cup of coffee with them and talk with them blah blah blah blah blah.

And deep down, sometimes you like that, sometimes you don't like that, but you never really give them attention. Now, what is attention in a relationship? Attention is everything looked at closely when you listen to someone with all of your attention and with all of your presence. 

You are only now when you are not looking at what was before and what will happen next. You are only at the present moment when you don't have a word inside your head going and running around. You can hear and listen to that person and know what they are talking about. As soon as you start to think, you are not listening and not giving attention to that person. You are listening to yourself. We should learn to listen to what the other person is saying without listening as if we are waiting for our chance to react to whatever they are saying.

So, most of the relationship is that we do not give attention to our partner. We keep watching for ourselves. We look at our self, for our selfish needs. We listen to react instead of listening to understand their intent and respond accordingly. 

Either we could become big ego, or we decide I don't have to listen to you. Or from small ego, you may think the other person is against me, or he doesn't love me, or he needs to give me more attention, but, in reality, we don't give enough attention to her or him. 

So, start from your self. Include the skill of observation; watch what the other person is telling you. Try to understand what is their intention from their speech and focus on that intention. Look at him or her like you are looking at him for the first time. 

Listen and see that person and remember when you first saw that person, how excited you were. But now you cannot even compare that, but if you give your attention to this person, you will watch her or him with the difference. You will see that person like you see him or her for the first time. 

And this only applies to the persons that want to develop their relationship with the person they want to see and improve their relationship. But as we all know, most of our relationship isn't from love, aren't even that we like this person. We are with them just because we want to fulfil some idea that other person may have.

Let's say your family wants you to have a wife and many children, and you want to be good in their excellent eyes. And you have a relationship with a man or wife and have a lot of children. But in fact, you hate the woman you have or the man you have, you hate the children and everything.

So. firstly, for the person that has these problems. They have to see and watch why and what they want. They have to develop this skill of observation. They have to be closely there, watching with everything that they have. What is happening inside them and then do the right thing, not just what they want. 

Do what is needed; sometimes, you must let go of that person that you are with. Sometimes you must stay with that person you have to see, observe and develop the skill. To see what is needed to be done, that is why many people think if I start watching and observing and let everything unveil as it needs to be for me. 

They think that they will be just lazy and do nothing, but the opposite will happen. You will see what is happening, and nature will do what is needed to do. Natural intelligence will tell you whatever you will have to do, automatically. 

You will see what is needed to do, and you will act upon it. So, if you want to develop your relationship or improve your relationship. You have to be in the present moment. You have to see, watch, and observe what is happening inside you and what is happening outside you. 

See the person you are talking with and have a relationship with, like seeing him or her for the first time. Every time you see them, give them complete attention and be in a presence while you're there with that person. Leave the phone outside, leave your problems and thoughts outside; they are all in the past. Be right now, and your life will change completely. 

As always, try it for yourself. This understanding is not something that you hear and forget about it and think only hearing this will improve your relationship. No, you have to do the actual thing. You have to watch it. You have to be present because you cannot change if you don't do this. 

And if you want to change, you will change immediately because there is no change through a particular time. There is no other time than the only now, and you can only change now. However, time is needed to develop the skill of observation. Use that time to know yourself. Know the world in which you live, see the person you have a relationship and see through the illusion.

Thank you once more for being with me in this mediation session, and until next time stay healthy and infinite love to you. 

You are your infinite I's and eyes.